The voice thing

Changing one's voice is hard business. There's so many things! It's not just the hard pitch shift, but also the voice mannerisms and intonation. Whoever thinks that being trans is being lazy (ie not "trying hard enough" to be a man) should try this. Oh yeah :)
And it sounds so strange! I never realized how much I'm attached to my voice and way of talking until I heard this alien fem voice emerging from my throat. Bad and so beginner as it is, it's still much better than the soft rumble of my male voice.
I have to change everything. Even my way of pitching my voice for joking is very male, which bugs me since I joke all the time.
Anyway, I sense I'm lagging behind in my voice. I'm easing myself into this gay guy voice, a Mr. Softee of sorts, and it's something I dearly don't want. I mean, I don't mind being taken by gay (like I have a choice, no one takes me for a guy-guy anymore!), but that is not my goal. I want to pass and be regarded as the woman I am.